When we are raw and wounded, the first thing we throw out of the window is usually trust. The most natural reaction to our loss of faith is to wrap ourselves in a protective shell because we are afraid of what might come next. The world no longer feels safe.
Is all of this crazy energy we've been experiencing lately making you feel like curling up into a ball and hiding from everyone and everything? Before you give up, watch this weeks vlog by the Happy Empath herself, Barbara Buck.
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Emotional Healing Coach and "New Age Colbert" JP Sears shares some serious thoughts on fear as this weeks guest contributor.
I get scared everyday. My daily fears can be construed into stories such as, “What if I’m not good enough, what if people leave me, what if I never live up to expectations, what if people see through my façade, what if people knew that I don’t really know who I am, what if I run out of money, what if fail at something…?” I’ve come to believe that being scared is the scariest thing we can ever do! As my acknowledged fears reverberate within, I curiously notice that since I’ve learned to be scared, my life is expanding, more authentic satis...
I love random acts of kindness and the idea of paying it forward. There are few things better than doing something for no other reason than the pleasure of making someone feel good.
What’s even better about being kind, is that it makes other people want to be kind also. Your one small act will spread like the seeds of a dandelion.
Here are a few ways to practice kindness that you might not have thought of, and they don’t cost a thing:
Listen without judgment or the need to give advice. This isn’t as easy as it sounds! Most of the time when someone is telling you a story about their life, what they really want is for you to “bear witness” and simply listen. Be...
“How am I ever going to figure out my life purpose when I’m so scatterbrained?”
A client emailed me this question recently. She was very frustrated with herself because she never finished what she started. She started writing a book, then lost interest, then moved on to a painting she began a few weeks before. She got bored with that, so she decided she really needed to focus on learning a new healing modality.
She is passionate about all of these things when she starts them, but she never enjoys doing them because she spends most of her time struggling with trying to figure out which thing is her “life purpose.” When she can’t decide which one she should sti...
Everyone has moments when their self-esteem feels a little shaky. For some people, though, it can be a constant struggle. We can try to fake confidence in a number of ways, but until we get to the deeper reasons behind why we feel the way that we do about ourselves, low self-esteem is something that we will always have to contend with.
Most of us have a skewed perception of our value that’s based on other people’s judgments of who we are. We define ourselves through the eyes of others, and usually not in a positive way. Seeing other people as your mirror can be a bad habit, because sometimes their perception of you is like looking in a fun house mirror...
“Just be yourself.” Sounds like great advice, right? We are offered this nugget of wisdom when we go for a job interview, or to meet a date for the first time. The problem with these three little words is that most of us have no idea who “we” are. How can we be authentic if we don’t know ourselves?
Think of how much time and energy we spend on managing our image. We get up in the morning and do our hair, choose a certain style of clothing for whatever we are doing that day, put on one face for our kids and another for our boss. It’s exhausting, when you think about it.
Most people don’t intentionally try to be inauthentic. We don’t even know we are doing it som...
When Socrates was put on trial and sentenced to death for inciting the young, he said in response, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”
Leave it to Socrates to give us a teachable moment on the eve of his execution.
While scholars have argued about the exact meaning behind his words for centuries, I think it’s pretty clear; the only reason for being on this earth is to get to know ourselves. Everything else is pointless.
What’s interesting is how society still discourages us from doing that. Socrates had the same problem back in his day, only worse. People were expected to blindly follow the rules, worship the government sanctioned gods, and not questio...
When I was 12, I decided that it was time to find out what the “religion thing” was all about. The most spiritual thing I’d ever been involved in as far as my family was concerned, was my mom marching us down to the Transcendental Meditation center to get mantras when we were 10.
That was less about religion, and more about getting us to sit quietly for 30 minutes every day so she wouldn’t lose her mind from her daughters constantly fighting. I don’t blame her, believe me.
I had friends who were involved in their churches and temples. I was fascinated by the Catholic kids who would come to school with ash on their foreheads and their tales of what they had to...
The word “power” can bring up a number of feelings. For many people, it makes them think of selfishness, corruption, abuse, and authority. Power is evil, self-indulgent, and should be avoided at all costs.
It has a very different meaning for me. Being “powerful” means that I am standing in my truth and accepting myself fully. When I’m embracing my power, I’m trusting that I’m acting from the Divine part of myself and from my heart space.
Two very different vibrations, aren’t they?
Words can be positive or negative, depending on a persons’ beliefs or perceptions. We get to choose how we feel about them. For most of us, our definition of “power” isn’t even ours...
So you’re feeling like you are in a rut. It’s a mindset that we all have sometimes. Normally the best thing to do is to push through it, but can getting stuck ever be a good thing?
We can feel stuck for a number of reasons. Regardless of what the circumstances are, it always points to the fact that what we are doing isn’t working anymore. It can feel like there are only two options in this situation; fight our way out of it, or give up. There is a third option, though.
Stop and observe.
Sometimes we get stuck because we are focusing attention on things that don’t benefit us, or aren’t in alignment with higher self. We are missing clarity. A rut can be a wonderf...
Loneliness is not the same thing as being alone. You can find yourself alone without feeling lonely just as easily as you can feel horribly secluded in the midst of many people. One of the best things that I have learned when I felt isolated from family and friends is that letting loneliness overwhelm me is a choice, and life is too short to let emotions like that overrule my happiness.
Let me preface this post by saying that I am beyond blessed by the amount of love that I am surrounded with. The periods of time that I struggled and felt alone were not because my loved ones abandoned me in any way; they were just necessary times for me to 'find myself' on my...
A defining moment in my life happened when I was 9 and my best friend wrote me a “break up” letter. She told me that she didn’t want to be friends anymore because I always had the answers in class.
“Nobody likes a know-it-all,” the letter said. “It makes everyone else look bad.”
I was deeply hurt and confused by this. I found such pleasure in learning things. I would spend quite a bit of time studying my lessons because I truly enjoyed it. I also wanted to please my teacher by doing my best because she seemed as excited about the subjects as I was.
The thought never occurred to me that other people weren’t as enthusiastic as me. Why wouldn’t they want to show u...