“How am I ever going to figure out my life purpose when I’m so scatterbrained?”
A client emailed me this question recently. She was very frustrated with herself because she never finished what she started. She started writing a book, then lost interest, then moved on to a painting she began a few weeks before. She got bored with that, so she decided she really needed to focus on learning a new healing modality.
She is passionate about all of these things when she starts them, but she never enjoys doing them because she spends most of her time struggling with trying to figure out which thing is her “life purpose.” When she can’t decide which one she should sti...
In the last couple of years, people have gotten really free and easy with labeling other human beings “toxic.” You see articles like “How to Avoid Toxic People Like the Plague” and “How to Recognize a Toxic Person.” You hear people say, “Oh, that guy was totally toxic. I stopped dating him ages ago.”
When did it become acceptable in the healing community to judge and label people this way?
Calling someone toxic strips them of their humanity. We are judging them as less than we are, so that we feel superior. We are saying, “I have a right to judge you because you are struggling and it shows in your behavior.”
It appalls me that this word gets used the most in t...
Everyone has moments when their self-esteem feels a little shaky. For some people, though, it can be a constant struggle. We can try to fake confidence in a number of ways, but until we get to the deeper reasons behind why we feel the way that we do about ourselves, low self-esteem is something that we will always have to contend with.
Most of us have a skewed perception of our value that’s based on other people’s judgments of who we are. We define ourselves through the eyes of others, and usually not in a positive way. Seeing other people as your mirror can be a bad habit, because sometimes their perception of you is like looking in a fun house mirror...
“Just be yourself.” Sounds like great advice, right? We are offered this nugget of wisdom when we go for a job interview, or to meet a date for the first time. The problem with these three little words is that most of us have no idea who “we” are. How can we be authentic if we don’t know ourselves?
Think of how much time and energy we spend on managing our image. We get up in the morning and do our hair, choose a certain style of clothing for whatever we are doing that day, put on one face for our kids and another for our boss. It’s exhausting, when you think about it.
Most people don’t intentionally try to be inauthentic. We don’t even know we are doing it som...
Happy Valentine’s Day! Archangel Raphael is the angel who helps us with healing and romantic relationships. Today is all about love, so here is some channeled guidance from Raphael on the subject.
Remember that you were made in Love. Because you were made in Love, you can be nothing less than Love itself.
You are all connected and a part of each other. Just as you are connected to each other, you are connected to us, who are connected to the Source of Love Itself. Your actions and feelings are waves of energy that affect not only yourself and each other, but the very Source of all that is.
When you choose to hate one person, you are choosing to hate yourself,...
When Socrates was put on trial and sentenced to death for inciting the young, he said in response, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”
Leave it to Socrates to give us a teachable moment on the eve of his execution.
While scholars have argued about the exact meaning behind his words for centuries, I think it’s pretty clear; the only reason for being on this earth is to get to know ourselves. Everything else is pointless.
What’s interesting is how society still discourages us from doing that. Socrates had the same problem back in his day, only worse. People were expected to blindly follow the rules, worship the government sanctioned gods, and not questio...
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and I’ll be single for it…again.
I supposed that I should be frustrated at my ever long status of being alone, but nothing could be further from the truth. I feel really blessed to have this time to myself.
Whenever anyone single says this, no one believes them. They think we are deluding ourselves. I had a friend tell me recently that she thought that I had become too comfortable being independent and on my own. She decided that I couldn’t really be happy being alone. No one could.
She’s partially right. I have become really comfortable not being in a relationship. When people ask me if I’m ever lonely, I can honestl...
I’m starting to feel the pressure that happens during middle age to pack in as much life as possible while I can. Even though the average life span is 78 years, it just doesn’t seem like that much time.
Even on my “breaks” during the day, I’m doing something. I’m checking emails or social media, running errands, talking on the phone. I allow myself very little unstructured time, and when I do, it’s because I’ve scheduled it. I know I’m not the only one who does this.
Society isn’t any help. We are encouraged to be more productive and juggle everything in order to have the perfect homes, perfect jobs, perfect kids, perfect bodies, perfect social lives.
“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”- Buddha
Empaths are constantly affected by other people’s energy. Our gift can leave us feeling drained, confused, and victimized. We can feel like we have no control over being influenced by other people’s moods and physical problems.
Many of us wear our empath status like a handicap parking permit. We move through the world as though we are the walking wounded. Other people are encroaching on our energetic space and we have no control over it, so we give our power to everyone else. Their feelings supersede our own, so we are never...
When I was 12, I decided that it was time to find out what the “religion thing” was all about. The most spiritual thing I’d ever been involved in as far as my family was concerned, was my mom marching us down to the Transcendental Meditation center to get mantras when we were 10.
That was less about religion, and more about getting us to sit quietly for 30 minutes every day so she wouldn’t lose her mind from her daughters constantly fighting. I don’t blame her, believe me.
I had friends who were involved in their churches and temples. I was fascinated by the Catholic kids who would come to school with ash on their foreheads and their tales of what they had to...
The word “power” can bring up a number of feelings. For many people, it makes them think of selfishness, corruption, abuse, and authority. Power is evil, self-indulgent, and should be avoided at all costs.
It has a very different meaning for me. Being “powerful” means that I am standing in my truth and accepting myself fully. When I’m embracing my power, I’m trusting that I’m acting from the Divine part of myself and from my heart space.
Two very different vibrations, aren’t they?
Words can be positive or negative, depending on a persons’ beliefs or perceptions. We get to choose how we feel about them. For most of us, our definition of “power” isn’t even ours...
So you’re feeling like you are in a rut. It’s a mindset that we all have sometimes. Normally the best thing to do is to push through it, but can getting stuck ever be a good thing?
We can feel stuck for a number of reasons. Regardless of what the circumstances are, it always points to the fact that what we are doing isn’t working anymore. It can feel like there are only two options in this situation; fight our way out of it, or give up. There is a third option, though.
Stop and observe.
Sometimes we get stuck because we are focusing attention on things that don’t benefit us, or aren’t in alignment with higher self. We are missing clarity. A rut can be a wonderf...
Loneliness is not the same thing as being alone. You can find yourself alone without feeling lonely just as easily as you can feel horribly secluded in the midst of many people. One of the best things that I have learned when I felt isolated from family and friends is that letting loneliness overwhelm me is a choice, and life is too short to let emotions like that overrule my happiness.
Let me preface this post by saying that I am beyond blessed by the amount of love that I am surrounded with. The periods of time that I struggled and felt alone were not because my loved ones abandoned me in any way; they were just necessary times for me to 'find myself' on my...
I’m blessed to have my dream job, but it wasn’t too long ago that, come Monday morning, I was moaning and groaning along with the rest of the world at having to go to work. Believe it or not, there are some things that you can do to be happy at the job that you have right now.
Being happy is a skill that takes practice. You have to work at it and be intentional about experiencing it. If you are in a job that seems hard to get up for in the morning, then here are some well documented tips and tricks to help you find a little joy in your day.
Studies show that people are happier at work when they feel like they are helping others. You don’t have to work for a no...